Ep125: From Foster Care to Financial Freedom with Sabre Bruffy

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What if the key to unlocking wealth wasn't another business strategy, but reclaiming the power in your womb?

Sabre Bruffy went from foster care and living in a van to building generational wealth—not by hustling harder, but by healing her relationship with her body through dance. 

She reveals the surprising connection between sexual energy, embodiment, and financial abundance, and shows how undulating through shame and scarcity can transform not just your bank account, but your entire life. 

Sabre takes us through:

• How healing eating disorders and body shame became the foundation for financial success 

• Why sexual energy and creative force directly link to money flow  

• How belly dance and sensual movement unlock stuck patterns and activate desire 

• Building wealth through magnetism and flow rather than force and hustle 

• The connection between your womb, your worth, and your wealth 

• How embodiment practices change your capacity to receive abundance 

And so much more!

Guest Bio:

Sabre Bruffy is a visionary entrepreneur and creative business mentor who empowers women to reclaim their power, purpose, and freedom through authentic leadership and aligned entrepreneurship. As the founder of Wealth Warriors Emporium, she guides women to blend intuitive business strategies with embodiment practices that expand their capacity for sustainable success.

Currently based in Paris, France, Sabre has since expanding her life & business from being the forst in her family to have a passport, traveled to over 10 countries, spoken on international stages, and cultivated a growing community of women committed to creating sustainable wealth and impact. She’s passionate about helping spiritually driven, creative entrepreneurs step into authentic leadership and monetize their unique gifts in ways that honor their energy, values, and vision.

Now, she’s expanding her impact through the Reclamation Retreat—an immersive experience for women to step into their leadership, activate their legacy, and embody their fullest expression. This inaugural retreat marks the beginning of a larger vision: hosting transformational experiences that empower women to build wealth and freedom beyond traditional business models.

Her work bridges intuitive strategy, spiritual empowerment, and grounded business practices to support women in leading with integrity and alignment. She is especially passionate about mentoring women who are ready to embody the next level of their leadership and build businesses that support their long-term visions.

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A: Hello there listener. When it comes to your wealth and your worth, what is it that you truly desire? Getting in touch with your body and the way that you feel about your body can completely transform the way that you're experiencing not only your financial success in the world, but the way that you make your way through the world as a human being. 

Today, I'm going to be talking with Sabre Bruffy and she's going to share some really amazing tools, ideas, and experiences that she's gone through in building a wealth of knowledge and literal wealth, financial wealth, from a relatively challenged background from nothing. Stay tuned. 

A: Every day there is a forgetting and every moment there is the possibility of remembering. Remembering who you truly are, awakening to your body, to the inner world, to the experience of being alive. Here is where you find the beauty, the joy, and here is where you free your Soma. I'm your host, Aimee Takaya. I'm here to help you move from pain to power, from tension to expansion, and ultimately from fear to love. 

A: Hi, Sabre. It's so nice to finally meet you. 

S: Hi, Aimee. I'm so honored to be here. I'm really excited for this conversation. Thank you for having me. 

A: Yeah, absolutely. You know, I feel like the stories that you probably have about going from one way of experiencing our world and society and then now experiencing a whole another realm of world and society, in some ways it may be something that people think of as a fairy tale or something. How could it be this great and this good? How could you go from living with such challenge to having such success? I think it's those kind of stories that very much inspire people because there's a lot of people out there, some people who are listening right now who are struggling. They're not just struggling economically, they're struggling internally. 

They're struggling with their relationship to their body, with the image of themselves that they walk around carrying, right, and then unconsciously transmitting out into the world. So I'm so excited to hear your insights and share your story with everyone. You know, coming from the place that you're at now and looking back, can you tell us a bit about what it's like to build this, you know, dare I say empire from nothing? 

S: I love that. I love the word empire, by the way, and that took me a long time to actually really fully claim. But I really love sharing it where I come from in my story because you're so right that, you know, I remember when you were talking about this, I remember when I first started listening to podcasts, when I was starting to get that light turned on, when I was starting to think about something so much bigger, I was a fresh call its dropout, trying to figure it out as an artist, I was working at least 80 hours a week, really just like, I think it was maybe three years into having my art business. 

And I was making okay money and I was getting by, but I was really stuck in this survival mode. And I was just trying to crack that code of entrepreneurship. And I'm sure a lot of listeners can really resonate with this, it's like cracking that code of entrepreneurship. 

What is that like? Because you hear all these people and like, what was their breakthroughs? And for a lot of people, yes, it was a business model. But for a lot of people, yes, it was also the worthiness. It was also just a reclamation and really claiming to really rewrite your story. So I just remember hearing story after story, even today, like stories still continue to inspire me, wearing as I continue to build this empire. But when it felt like such a far off distant dream, it was what got me through those hard times, you know, 80 plus hours a week and still not profiting after years, like, who's crazy enough to do that kind of stuff, right? 

Entrepreneurs crazy enough to do that stuff. But it's because we hear people who really didn't give up on their dreams and eventually figure they cracked the code. I am still I don't believe that there's a destination, right? So I always feel that when people introduce me or they share my story around, like wealth, but it's like the wealth actually started before the money actually came in. 

So I'll just cycle back a little bit and just reframe this by letting everybody know and anyone listening that I definitely did not come for money. I never even thought about being wealthy growing up. I'm actually I'm living here in Paris full time now. But I'm the first person in my family that got a passport and left their country, you know, like I'm the first person in my family who decided to not go the traditional route. I grew up with a solo mom. 

She passed away when she was 50 years old, unfortunately from suicide and the opiate overdose because she really just she was so trapped mentally, sexually, physically, financially, emotionally, spiritually like you name it. But I saw that trapped energy come from trying to fit her this beautiful, free spirited woman who could literally do anything she could. She literally built cars, houses, worked on computers. She was really psychic. She was gorgeous, played every musical instrument you could ever even think of. She sang like an angel. She was crazy smart. She won weight lifting competitions against men and dance competition, like seriously. But traditional ways of living. 

It was like we came from a Japanese lineage actually, my grandmother's full blood of Japanese. You got to be a doctor was the message that we received. You got to go to school and be either a doctor or lawyer and and that's the only way you're going to create security. So anyway, I watched my mom do this right and as we as I grew up, we didn't have access to anything. We were on government money and we were eating celery and peanut butter for lunch and dinner most of the time. 

You know, that's what I knew. So naturally, as you can imagine, my mom passed away at 15 years old. So when I I got into foster care, when I was about 12 years old, went to many different foster homes because seriously could not keep me in. I kept running away. Because it was like starting to repeat that pattern, right? 

A free bird like, don't put me in this cage. They tell you that you have to go to school and you have to even when I went into a transitional housing program exiting foster youths. I'm really grateful for those kinds of support. They like paid my rent and helped me out. And when I moved out to really try to get my feet off the ground, but they were still teaching me to be in the system. 

I had to go to school full time. I had to work full time, right? I got myself kicked out of that because I ended up just feeling so stifled and so suffocated. And I just decided, you know, I would rather not be able to afford rent for a while and figure out like what I'm going to do to create a different life. I was so committed to it. So I started my art business actually living in a van, in a mini van on the beaches of Santa Cruz, California. 

If people have been there, you know that you probably have seen a lot of camper vans in those areas. And it was a very fun, like free spirited time of my life to just explore myself, my spirituality, how I wanted to live. I got introduced to Burning Man communities, going to Burning Man and festivals and eventually started selling art at festivals. 

And then I had this booth. It was called Bless Is More Medicine and Magic. And that's really all I wanted in the beginning was to just live my life in medicine and magic, right? Like this motto, bless is more. 

The irony of this though, you know how they say less is more, the universe will provide, oh, we have everything that we need, right? There's a lot of money wounding in the artist and spiritual community, right? So me coming in with my money wounding and experiencing entrepreneurship for the first time in this culture, I again felt that stifling suffocated energy that was just all too familiar. It was scarcity, right? 

It was scarcity, it was lack, it was not enough time, 80 plus hours a week working, not enough money, because we're trading our time for money. And it was just like starting over from scratch in this hustle and grind all the time. And not enough ultimately came down to feeling not enough inside. 

Yeah, no, not enough inside. And in this journey of me being an artist, I started dance. I started doing dance maybe 12 years ago. I got into a burlesque troop. And I was literally, I had an eating disorder for a bench and purging when I started when I was eight years old. 

And I got I found myself getting into this burlesque troop. When I was maybe 20, I think I was just about that's why I was just about to turn 21. I remember because my first, the October before my first event, I wasn't 21 yet. 

So we had to do this thing at the at the event place to get me and to actually just perform. But it was so transform, transformational for me as a woman to start healing my relationship with my body. And ironically, that's what introduced me to the path of just deep trauma healing, which there was a lot of layers to it, right? 

There was like, I had to go through. Well, through my times of being a foster care, I went through not just the emotional and the physical and everything abuse, but also sexual abuse and so many just name it, you know, like, there's a lot of things that I went through when I was growing up and going through foster care and running away and all this mess. But healing my relationship with my body took me on this journey of healing through somatics, healing through sexual healing, which ironically led me to money, sexual healing and our womb and wealth being connected. And so gosh, I can't even remember the origin of your question. 

A: But essentially, yeah, it's about building from nothing. And you're taking us through it, you know, 

S: like, this is the process, the process is multi layered, it's nonlinear, it's multi dimensional, right? That's what I'm really getting here, you know. So you said something just a moment ago, I'd love for you to dive a little deeper. You know, you said the connection between our sexuality, our womb, and our wealth or our financial success is what a lot of people label wealth. But as we're seeing, it's much more interdimensional than that. 

Yes. Yeah, that's what I was going to wrap that up with was I went to my first sexual healing retreat. It was actually a serpent dancing retreat slash sexual healing. 

Very powerful. I was working with this woman, she's a serpent priestess, and she danced with serpents, I met her when she was pregnant. And I just, I was so intimidated by this woman when I first met her, but I realized it was just because there was such a power and a presence that this woman had that I was like, there's some serious magic codes to unlock with me in there. And I didn't know what it meant. It felt really mysterious and really tapoo. And also I just felt so pulled and alert to it. So gosh, I went to that sexual healing retreat. 

It was the first time I had invested in myself, $1,111. I remember being on the phone and my pull was to really crack through this code of my work, of really stepping into my power, but I knew stepping into my power meant I wasn't going to be feeling like a slave to my passions anymore. I felt like there was something there that was connected with how I was earning, the way that I was being, the way that I was receiving, like all of it was connected. I didn't fully understand. 

I just knew that this was it. And I was also scared to all this. But I threw myself out there, you know, like I really threw myself out there and went to this retreat. And I remember doing this really powerful ritual with everybody there. And we were calling in what we were really activating and manifesting through this like orgasmic ritual that we were doing. And I was like, I'm calling in big money. 

I remember saying that specifically, big money. And I found the business model that I'm in now, where I'm leading women towards learning how to create generational wealth. I've been building this business for five years. 

I'm on track to actually earn generational wealth, which is massive, because that is like truly repatterning, not even just on the physical sense of how I'm living, right, but how I'm actually earning and being able to pass this down to my future children and their children, like that's massive. I found this business model two weeks after that sexual healing retreat. So for me, that was so telling that what we're really receiving and how open we are to opportunities, how open we are to to life and magic unfolding is really connected to our power source and our sexual energy. So I guess I'll pause there because there's so much I can say within that. 

But that was a really huge trajectory and it really stemmed from healing my relationship with my body and with my eating disorder through dance, which awakens sexual energy that brought me to what I do today. 

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Join me, Amy Aimee and discover what my clients are raving about at YouCanFreeYourSoma.com. Yes, and in terms of the things that you had to let go of, the ideas and the shadows, I guess you could say that you had to integrate in your body, right? And maybe some of it might have been like overcoming or waking up to the different patterns that you had held. 

I mean, we can't change anything that we're not conscious of. And I think some people who are listening, already, you know, as they're listening to you talk, they know what kind of like patterns they're holding. And some people listening might not know, you know, and there's kind of an unraveling and an uncovering that goes on in this process. 

And a lot of times, as you described, it's part of being connected to a person, right, or a teacher, or some kind of example, who challenges us with their presence, because we can feel into the way that they are being about sexuality, the way that they are being about worth. And it shines a light on the places in us that are not aligned, you know, like it shows us the ways in which we are not where they are, right? 

And it's not to say that like, you know, I guess, sometimes we pedestalize people like that. And yet at the same time, it's like they're just a little bit further along the path than we are. They just have like, alchemized or, you know, understood some of their shadow, right? And that we haven't digested yet. So it's not like that they're better humans than us. They're just on a different wavelength. 

And we're feeling into that. So maybe you can say, you know, during this time that you were awakening to all of this, you know, were there moments that you felt really like scared or triggered by the things that you were being invited to consider? And can you give us some examples of things that were difficult to like transform? 

S: Yeah, I'm smiling so big because I'm like, all day long, baby. It's like, I truly believe now that whatever you fear, whatever you resist, persist. So anything that you feel a trigger by, there is so much medicine for you there. And you can run away from it all you want. 

But it's going to be there. And what's what's there for you on the other side of that fear? It once you alchemize that and actually lean in and explore that. And you're not always ready at the time, right? So but it's like you give yourself permission to lean into that edge constantly. I always tell people that I literally live by flying by the seat of my pants all the time. Like I'm often having this new glass ceiling that I'm hitting and it feels really stretchy and really uncomfortable. I do things way before I'm ready. And it's just the way that it lives now because I've learned that. 

Yeah, I could either stay on that side of fear and tell that narrative and keep myself stuck in playing the same, like you say, patterns, or I can challenge that and start quantum leaping and playing into new dimensions because I 100% pedestal people. Like that woman was the first woman that I felt that massively so strong for me because yeah, it was like her sexuality, the way she was with her dance, like the snakes, she was very open in her sexuality, like her whole, I remember I had just started performing too. And I saw her perform. 

I had a moment where I decided to back out of my performance with her all in this lineup of just kind of going out and doing our free flow. And I compared myself so deeply to her that I just I left and I cried. And I had this whole breakdown. 

But you know what was so fascinating to me? I was crying on the hill of this festival that we were at in Big Sur, California. This was where this moment was where I was watching her perform. And I'm crying having these just like deep like, oh, just feeling so much frustration with myself and like, why can't I be as confident and magnetic and, you know, embodied like that, right? This word embodied was so in my head. 

I was like, well, I can't I just be that. And I hear this woman comes, the woman I was looking at, she comes with Rape, the medicine Rape ceremonial tobacco stuff. And she just did this really beautiful ceremony with me and blessed me with it. She introduced me to this medicine. And I became her friend in that moment. And it was so beautiful because coming from, you know, we have so much mean girls stuff happened when we're in high school and middle school and all these things. 

So a lot of sister wounding and lots of things came up for me when I had watched her perform and had my comparison stuff going on. And I would love to actually share this episode with her when it gets published. Just share with her the reflection of this because now like, yeah, we're just such soul sisters. And when I really got on that other side, just seeing that she's just another human, like we've all got our, our stuff, you know, like I ended up actually living right next door to her for three months at one point. 

And we've just shared so much space and so much magic together. And it was nothing like I was projecting in my mind with all these this fear and all these stories. And there was so much healing and actually just allowing myself to receive sisterhood and be in sisterhood with this woman and other mentors in my life, you know, she was one of the first ones that I would really consider that. And as I continued to grow on my journey, I would notice that I would notice the getting this star struck energy or this like, wow, being in so much, ah, but I realized there's all of them have reflections of parts of me that are just ready to be activated. 

There's some aspect of me was in everybody that I'm inspired by probably triggered by that there's something in me that's ready to be activated or wanting to be activated where I'm whether I'm conscious of it or not. But it's such a beautiful way to live where you you see that the magic and the medicine really truly is from actually leaning into your fear. 

It's not doing all these rituals and thinking everything is all smooth and everything's just going to feel like butter a long life. Right. When the resistance comes up, it's not about pushing or forcing anything like this, but it's actually about like leaning in to create this resilience within ourselves and find the magic that's actually there that's creating the resistance in the first place. 

A: Yeah, that's very well said. I think that like, you know, as people there's like phases of this and they're not really linear, but like just for the sake of it, like we'll play with them as linear for a moment. But it's like you discover, you know, that you've been denying your potential, right, as a human being, whether it's, you know, in the lens of your sexuality or in your capacity to like, you know, gain wealth or generational wealth or even your capacity to heal, like you come across a blind spot, right. 

And then you see or experience someone else who is doing it or has the tools or has has moved past that blind spot. And I don't think that what I'm describing is like necessarily conscious for everybody. But you get that feeling that you're describing of being really uncomfortable, of being triggered, of comparing yourself, of demeaning yourself, right. 

And it's often just happens automatically, like we've been so entrenched and trained to do that, especially when it comes to things, you know, like worth and our bodies. And as we come in contact with that, there's that pulling away that happens like, oh, this hurts, this is uncomfortable. This is this is prodding at some soft point in me, right. 

And what you're describing is not that we're, you know, we're, oh, what you really need to do is just go for it and like gouge and like go into that pain. You're describing something more nuanced and month something much more sophisticated, that, you know, as someone who is a somatic educator, it's, it's this fine tuning of our moment to moment discernment, to discover what, what that really is. 

What is that resistance really saying, right? Because I think, you know, and maybe you've had experiences too, where you've been on the other side of that, where maybe you're so miserable, like you're so fucking tired of how it is that you see someone who seems to have it. And you're just like, okay, like, I'll just, I'll just do, I'll just do whatever you tell me. And you just like give them all your agency. And you don't hold your own anymore. Right. 

And that's, that's like a place where abuse can take place or where wounds can be kind of like, re triggered in like a, in like a way that is not necessarily leading you where you want to go. Right. And so it's that moment to moment discernment of like, not only who is this other person in front of me and like, why do I feel so uncomfortable with them? Right. 

Is it because I, because I'm having some kind of like unreadiness and yet there's part of me that's drawn to them, you know, is it because, you know, maybe they do have something that like, you know, I need, but I need to like take a little time, maybe sleep on it or take a week with it to process it before I go into that. Right. So what you're describing is like I said, more nuanced and sophisticated. And it's about developing that moment to moment awareness. 

And I think that, you know, dance and movement, especially are really powerful for helping us regain connection with that moment to moment discernment and awareness. You know, people talk about being in a flow state and really that is being present moment to moment with what is occurring and allowing it to move, whether it's your energy, whether it's your physical body, you know, and, and so I think, you know, maybe you can describe the way that, you know, you describe this woman as dancing and dancing with snakes and kind of this undulation, right, that I know as a burlesque dancer you were tapping into, right? How do you feel like dancing connects to being present and how do you feel like being present connects to our sexuality and reclaiming it? 

S: Oh, I love this. Oh, dance has saved my life. I don't know what I would do without dance. I don't know. I don't know what I would do, which is hilarious because my mom was a dancer, she would, you know, try and knock on our doors while we were like playing little girl things. I'm like nine years old. She's like, who wants to dance with me? 

It's like, mom, you're being embarrassing. When I went to my first school dance, I think I was probably 12 years old. I was so afraid to dance when people would try and encourage me to go get up on the dance floor. 

I just always said I can't move my body like that. I would say these things. And oh my gosh, wow. So for any of the listeners, if you have that story in your mind that you're not a dancer, that you can't dance, I call total bull conky on that because everybody can dance, everybody can move and there's, you're not ballet and these kinds of things. 

Don't get me wrong. I love belly dance and I can get very technical. I've done belly dance for eight years and I love the technique, but as you actually find that flow and that joy inside of you, it's actually about finding freedom within the technique, freedom within the structure. And I find that it's really unleashed my feminine and has really helped me tap into my sexual energy in such a powerful way that it just helps you learn how to connect with the senses. So I teach women's sensual movement in my containers. 

So when women end up working with me, they think that they come and they want to start an online business and they want to make 10 gay months and they want to quit their jobs and all this stuff, or they want to pivot their businesses. But what they find out is they got to really connect to their deeper authenticity. They got to really connect to their deeper embodiment and their desire and the ways that I really help enrich the mind-body connection is through a sensual movement. And just sexy music, touching yourself, like really allowing yourself to also be seen. 

Like we'll do it on just women only gallery view on Zoom, like really allowing ourselves to be seen. And it is just such a healing, powerful journey that, you know, coming from my background of having my eating disorder, I didn't really have intentions of stopping my eating disorder, but I found dance 12, 13 years ago. I just kind of was like, this is just my life. And so when I started getting into dance, that started to actually connect my connection with my body. 

Because when you're, when you have an eating disorder, you have such a big disassociation. There's a big, there's a big release and control that you're trying to create. And when I just started to unlock, it started actually with fire dance. And then it got into burlesque. And then burlesque introduced me to jazz, belly dance, and aerials, and pole, and these kinds of things. And what really stuck was belly dance. 

Belly dance is my, uh, it's my, it's my muse because actually to me, belly dance is the dance of the sacred feminine. And there's a lot of different schools of thought. Some people will say, oh, it started in Egypt. Oh, it started in India. Nobody actually really knows. 

A: Oh, I've heard a rumor about the origin. I don't know if you've heard this one, but that it was originally like for women by women. And it was with like, uh, well, maybe at some point, right, it was like the harems, like there would be like, you know, a man with like 20 wives, especially if he was like very wealthy, right? 

And the wives would, you know, just spend time with each other and they would dance and they would feel into their own like sexuality with each other because they only had one husband and he wasn't like not available most of the time, or maybe they didn't have like as much of a connection to him, right? Because how do you split yourself like with 20 women, right? So it was for women by women and they would dance for each other to enjoy their own beauty and like appreciate their own beauty. Wow. 

S: I'd love that. See, the school thought that I love is that it was a initiation for women to when they start their periods and just get them connected to their womanhood and their initiation to that. And when they're coming into birth and these kinds of things, a lot of women in modern society, they just think that they can't exercise when they're pregnant. 

But actually, if you do belly dance, I know Zoe Jakes from Beats Antique, she belly danced all through her pregnancy and she had a really, really clean birth, you know? So there's so many, yeah, there's a lot of schools that thought, but I love that one because it really is around connecting to that lower pelvic floor. Like you can't do undulations in belly rolls if you're not really connected to that lower pelvic floor muscle. 

And I have had some crazy experiences learning belly dance and really connecting with the breath. and intention and ritual and just really being really present and aware and as I started to ground deeper into meditation practices and these kinds of things on my journey my belly dance became a tool for me to my dance.

My body became a tool for me to really activate this sexual energy inside of me that sometimes I will just turn into this crying just releasing so much energy to then bliss and ecstatic and having orgasms while I'm dancing and it's so powerful because it really has been unlocked from just me going on this journey of connecting with my body mixed with presence mixed with you know the awareness of somatics and what's going on within the body but using undulations and kind of a little bit of cheekong.

I would say a lot of people see me on the dance floor and they asked me if I do a cheekong and I'm like kind of wasn't really trained in it but it's it's you're moving this energy and it's powerful us women we are powerful in this womb energy that gets activated in there I just don't know any other dance that really unlocks it more than mixing belly dance with sensual dance not super traditional belly dance. 

But like belly belly dance elements but allowing that intuitive central movement flow within it oh it's so juicy and that to me it's our primal power right the lower chakra areas where your root is connected to your security your finances and money hello yeah sacred to that that sexual energy and that creativity for those ideas for money to come through hello and then your your solar plexus is that that power and courage and strength to actually just go out and do the things that you know.

You need to do the action aspect of actually getting visible with all of these ideas that are rising up from the surface so naturally it goes through this process of the connection to divine mother earth to your body to the ideas and sparks of creation and allowing that sexual energy to flow and then having that connection to your power to really bring it forth and then of course the upper chakras are all part of it too right connected to your heart so it comes through through authenticity your throat chakra so you're expressing it your third eye where you're doing it an intuitive flow and then your crown chakra so you're really being led by spirit all the way.

So yeah I feel like there's so much I could bring into into dance you could talk about chakra dances you could talk about yoga you could talk about bringing in the somatics there's so much in it but dance has absolutely changed my life I'm being someone who used to say I couldn't move my body like that I would hope that any listeners listen are like okay that's it just turn on a song just at least one song a day and just let yourself play dance like no one's watching you know. 

I started that at ecstasy dance ecstasy dance was uh you know if you've never been to ecstasy dance it's the best like you might have this moment to play what is everybody doing but that's exactly the medicine right is yeah there's that trigger there's that trigger there's something there for you what if you actually allowed yourself to dance and roll around and play and be fully unapologetic and you know at least you can start that even just by yourself and your home. 

A: yeah well we all know at this point like you know stress shows up in our bodies it shows up in right like our cardiovascular system and our blood pressure it shows up in the way that we hold our bodies too and what you're describing you know. Just to kind of like fill fill physiological with it for a minute when you're dancing and you're doing these like undulating movements and you're inviting someone to you know yeah try a technique try moving your hips this way how does it feel to go up and then down and around right how does it feel to move in a slow circle right?

There's a structure to it but you're also inviting the person to be intuitive about it right? And to go in the direction that feels good to them and let them discover that in a way it's like we're you're inviting them to really break up those stress patterns to move in a way that you know. We think about oh I need to go get a massage or like you know a lot of things like a yoni massage is becoming like more well known and I'm you know there are benefits to having a skill practitioner working with you in that way.

But I think of dance and especially belly dance and with these like lower body undulations as a natural form of like your own self massage from the inside like as I said as you're moving your muscles in these you know circular patterns and you're getting in touch with your internal sense of those patterns.

It's like you're moving your blood you're moving your tissues you're waking up and livening that whole space of your body and you're breaking it out of the stress pattern of like the clenched fists and the clenched jaw and the clenched butt of like trying to control trying to control what happens around you trying to control your life trying to get somewhere and you know so much of what you're describing in you know your dance approach I think is is really powerful medicine for developing a better sense of self and also self love because you're moving your body in a beautiful way you're moving your body in a way that's not just beautiful to look at or from the outside but that feels beautiful on the inside right? 

And getting people in touch with that and that's you know that's maybe the difference sometimes between like you know ballet and more freeform kinds of dance is that when we get too entrenched in the structure and the institutionalized view of it. And this connects back to what you were saying in the beginning right? About being a person who doesn't fit into those structures right, is we can get stifled by them we can start to get myopic and think there's just like one way right, and in belly dance especially or an ecstatic dance we're really exploring all ways of moving our body. 

All ways that my hips or my butt or my arms could move and making that not just safe but joyous right. So when you're you know when you're exploring this idea of wealth and breaking up those patterns around wealth and particularly like how it's connected to what we're talking about with like body image and sexuality right, you know, do you think that when people start dancing and moving their body it changes the way that they are showing up in their business?

S: yeah I know some listeners are probably like what are they going to talk about well we have been the whole time and the irony of it right is you're really connecting with your desire and when you tap into this aspect of yourself and your whole life starts to change as within so without so for me I didn't mention this but yeah my my eating disorder started to dwindle as I started getting more connected to my body and my dance and it just as I started really activating my my desires and my mission and really honing in my focus with that my life got turned on my life got turned on I started to not be so numb.

I started to actually experience better pleasure with my partner at the time and even I've been single for at this point almost oh my god it's almost three years that's so amazing but it's uh yeah even just with myself like I'm actually starting to connect with I was in an orgasm in the grocery store the other day it was quite intense but but like these set kinds of things are happening simultaneously as more of my creativity is getting turned on you know. 

I moved to Europe to to buy a castle retreat center to turn into a retreat center and my mission is to start doing castle retreat so we have our first one happening on belting so all of this magic and creativity is flowing through like the vision for it came fully to life and when you have those creative centers really juiced or really flowing.

Me and my business partner were like we're going to dance and then we'll get on a call and we'll talk about we'll mastermind about what we're going to do because we know that dancing connects us to our flow it connects us to our feminine energy this particular retreat I think I might actually be continuing to work with this archetype we'll see as we continue but we're working with the energy the empress from the tarot cards so the empress being you know she's one of creativity abundance abundance abundance and fertility and she is an empress she is building her empire not through force not by hustling she really just is the force.

She really knows that everything that she desires is for her and she takes the aligned action and she does it with this this grace and this power and this conviction and this inner knowing and for us to really tap into that energy it really is around connecting to our femininity because she also represents divine feminine leadership so of course we've got the emperor within the tarot card too right? Where they both have their place in building the empire but her presence is more around the magnetism it's more around that vitality and that fertility that comes through for her is really when she is in her creativity she's in her femininity and that's how she creates and builds her empire.

And so that is that is the real message is how it all truly connects this is some of the core foundational work that that we do with women when they come and they want to start an online business whether they sometimes if people are pivoting their entrepreneurship journey and they're wanting to do business and more ease and flow they have to really unlearn and decondition that grind and hustle mindset.

That if they want to earn more they got to do more and it's just not the truth yes you got to shift the business model which that's what we help women with at the core foundation but you can give someone a business model on a silver platter do everything for them have people close their sales for you and do the marketing for them and all this stuff but it actually won't work for the woman who is still stuck in her in her rigidity structured what you said my myopic- 

A: myopic,  

S: yeah where we're narrow yeah. because it keeps you in this like linear thing where it's like one plus one equals two and and we help women really expand and stretch their spaciousness in the way that they earn and be do and receive so big part of that excuse me is to actually embody that and through dance.

I love taking naps it's only like two p.m. here and I just told you that I woke up from like an hour long nap it's like that inviting that spaciousness in your life even if it's bit by bit even if you know you're working a job and you're still pivoting into your your entrepreneurship building your business really still creating that spaciousness wherever you can fit in even work with women who are busy solo moms with multiple kids but it's like you've got to have that that spaciousness come in.

One of the easiest ways to do that is through dance I mean everybody everybody it has time to turn on just even one song like why you're cooking food you know you can like get an energy of dancing I love dancing in the shower and it just brings me so much joy and it puts me in that energy and I can tell it's night and day when I'm not active and letting that energy move and flow then I don't have that flow integrated in the way that I'm doing my business so then that's where I get the kinks in the hose in my energy field because as women particularly we're not meant to actually operate in this way we are we are really truly meant to magnetize we're really truly meant to be in that space and in that flow.

And I think a lot of people talk about this but it's really hard to like I said there's there's multiple pieces to it right it is the business model but it is the the way that you're structuring your day or not structuring and there's so many aspects to it but as I say as within so without. So if you can just start to invite that softness joy space spaciousness inside your outside life changes so much.

The money like making money as a woman in business it's just a byproduct of your inner empress energy rising in my fullest opinion this is what I've been witnessing and women all over the globe in our organization and within myself too it's kind of hard to when you don't know that yourself right I saw a lot of my mentors talking about this and I thought well that sounds great to you you've got more time you've got more money than I do like that sounds like it's easy for you but they didn't start there is the thing people haveto remember. 

A: Yeah and what you're pointing to the somatic piece here is the aliveness and the being able to tap into that desire and that creative force because we can be dotting all the eyes and crossing all the t's and you know doing all the right things and still feel stagnancy and stuck and wondering why you know money and support and all these different you know resources aren't flowing in and you know I know from my own personal experience how transformative you know movement and you know as Einstein says nothing changes until something moves so we can talk about it all day long we can do all the beautiful, you know, meditations, but moving your body I'm actually shaking up the physiological patterns and reminding the cells and tissues of your body what it's like to be alive.

There's no replacement for that like that is so foundational at least it is you know for me and I'm hearing for you and and if you're listening to this you know I love what Saber just said about you have time to turn on a song and dance in your kitchen for you know six minutes right or whatever how whatever the length of the song is and just let that start to shift how you're perceiving your body in time and space at that moment and then little by little you know building on that building on that until you know until you're feeling that chance that that kind of hunger you know like oh I'm ready for more you know like as I'm listening to you.

And I'm listening to everything you're saying, it's like you're really inspiring. You're inspiring that mourness that you know muchness like that we could expand beyond what we think you know our reality is offering at this moment right? So I think that's extremely exciting and like we sort of tapped into before the- you know, the background you came from.

Maybe I can ask this question in tapping into all of this feminine divine you know energy. How has that been helpful in healing you know your relationship with your mother? You mentioned your mother passing and that you know obviously she was very trapped and found the only way that she could to you know free herself from the confines that she felt right internally. And you know that must have hurt you right and must have been painful and it sounds like coming into this connection with feminine you know divinity how has that been part of your personal healing journey with your mother wounD. 

S: I love this question. I may or may not cry we'll see. I'm a cryer yeah I think one of the biggest things that came up for me when my mom passed I remember I was just about to turn 16 and I was in foster care I was working at KFC and I was on a whole bunch of medication because that's what they do when you're in foster care they're like you're bipolar you're medic depressive oh you're also schizophrenic all these things um and I just made this decision when she passed I don't know a fire lit underneath me I quit all my medication cold turkey it's like I don't care what you say you're just not you're I'm gonna run away if you tell me did not do it or so if you want me to stay here you can let me do what I want to do I really just I like laid it down.

I'm like you cannot control me what's like what really got lit up under inside of me and boom man that was that was a serious light underneath me I ended up graduating high school year early because I just did whatever I could to just get out as soon as I could. So I could really just go pave a different path and that was really what my motivation in my drive was was to create a life that my mom didn't get to have. And that's why I mentioned I'm launching my podcast on February 17th it's her it would be her 65th birthday and I've said for like the past three years was like I'm gonna launch a podcast when I'm 30 I'm gonna launch a podcast when I'm 30. 

I just turned 30 January 28th and I thought I was gonna launch the podcast on my birthday, but I ended up doing ceremony and had this huge initiation. And basically was like no you gotta do it on your mom's birthday and it just feels like a big full circle moment because actually the reason why I got into having an eating disorder when I was eight years old was because my mom. 

She really wanted me to be a plastic surgeon that's actually what I graduated high school and I was like I'm gonna be plastic surgeon you know I went the route of I'm gonna make difference with burn victims and kids with club pallets and things like this but it was really my mom I was doing plastic surgery on my stuffed animals when I was like nine years old giving them tummy tucks and facelifts and because I just watched my mom spend hours in front of the mirror getting herself ready for nothing you know.

She didn't work all the way and she just had so much of this focus on how she looked and she was just really wanting me to go be a plastic surgeon so I could fix her stomach fix her nose fix her this and then as I started going into puberty she's like oh you have a notice that people would pay for oh you got a J.Lo booty oh hopefully your boobs come in more later she would say these things and oh it just was it was so much passed down from her own right be shaming and and sexual trauma and everything too so you know coming into the healing and the just that permission slip when she passed away.

I did think I thought I was still going to pursue the plastic surgery thing that died pretty quickly as I started really getting like clear on what I actually wanted especially you put me in college and you put me in a freaking political science class for general education. I'm like I am bored do I really have to do all of these things? To go to medical school in another 10 years? 

I'm like I'm out. I can't do it. Thank god, but I would have graduated actually last year if I didn't actually do that. Okay you imagine. So going on this journey it was like this reclamation to create a life that was uh one that she didn't get to have you know. She never got to find her community that really inspired her she never got to find a partner that really truly truly loved her. 

A: Yeah, you never got to really love herself, love her authentic body, it sounds like. 

S: yeah it's like she had all of these she's like a prodigy child really when it comes down to it there wasn't anything she couldn't do except for love herself so I thought god damn it I'm gonna do whatever I need to do to create a different life and I thought I was gonna go the traditional route with that but I'm really grateful that I ended up just coming across the right people you know moving to Santa Cruz getting into fire dancing going to Burning Man meeting entrepreneurs and breath work practitioners and people who traveled for a living and really stretched my mind.

I was like I wish my mom went to Burning Man you know like yeah and so I just I just I felt such a heart on fire for my mission to create something that she didn't have and actually this this vision that I have to purchase this castle it's like a five-year dream. I would love to do it by the time I'm 35. So right now, my my goal is to just do retreats at different parts in Europe and live in different parts in Europe and see where I do want to land. 

But the dream for the castle is to actually give back to holistic rehabs. I feel like that's a really big missing link holistic rehabs for addicts but also even for eating disorders things like this, but bring in holistic plant medicines practitioners, somatics, that kind of thing. I also really want to teach kids financial literacy and entrepreneurship whether you know we've got we could do partnerships with other organizations that do this and then raise money through the events that we do at the castle um particularly foster youth and you know youth that have gone to juvenile hall and things like this but all kids.

And I also really want to help the felines and protect the felines my mom had way too many cats and she never got the biggest line because I have a really special spot for felines they're the familiars you know. They're feminine feminine wisdom companions and um yeah ultimately. Also, have a central movement mystic arts type of theater where women- where it's all women where women can actually come and learn central embodiment and sensual dance, and learn how to actually be seen by other women.

These are all things that really have come about through my healing journey but they've come about through my healing journey because I saw that it was something that I wish my mom would have had you know. And we had such a different opportunity today with social media and all the digital marketing opportunities and just so much that I'm like it is why would you not take advantage of creating such a different life?

Because back then, you know, our parents grandparents they didn't have access to personal development and transformation like we did today. So I just that fire inside of me it never died like it just got brighter and brighter and it's gotten real strong and it's um I think in a way it kind of came from a a wounding my my ambition came from a wounding at the time.

A: Yeah and that is so normal I think that that's actually where a lot of our passion and our fire comes from is pain that gets alchemized into a purpose into a direction right and and if you're listening and you're in the middle of the pain right now just you know don't try to skip ahead is my best advice in terms of yes there will be quantum leaps but they will happen spontaneously they will happen naturally they will happen through those chance meetings you know.

Or through listening to a podcast that something opens up in your brain right that a new pathway gets forged right but being with the process is the process right and and I you know as I'm connecting with you and listening you know I don't know that you saw this in my name but I'm also a quarter Japanese and I see and and I think about people who there's more and more mixed race people right in the world than maybe there ever has been you know in in the sense of like globalization and and the modern society that we have and when you know when you carry the genetic information from like these different cultures right?

And these different ways of perceiving and doing things it does speak to like a completely different world than the world that our ancestors grew up in in terms of the interconnectedness and the synthesizing of different viewpoints and ways of doing things and I think it's just absolutely beautiful that you know kind of right away you went to the alchemizing of your mother's pain and your mother's wound that fire that you describe getting lit under you at kfc and I'm not taking this medication anymore and I'm going to do it differently you know and in a sense like that's what so much of the world needs right now is to do it differently and we're in that process right now we're in that process of doing it differently and being a you know being a multiracial multidimensional human being is part of that I believe. 

S: yes absolutely and I love that you say that it's really about being in the process too and the quantum leaps happening because you never know where your life's going to be when I started this this business that I'm in now I didn't have thoughts about having a castle and turning into a retreat center and doing building an empire I never even considered myself a leader or anything like this so but it was that fire that fire that I just continued to lean into and really being just committed to expansion and really following the the nuggets along the way and just following my golden thread right? 

And anytime right I felt like fear coming up oh my god I can't even imagine if I would have let fear stop me from saying yes to this business for instance right like I found it two weeks after this incredible ritual but you know what a lot of people do they'll set all these intentions but then you know the partner or the business opportunity or whatever comes to them but then they still let their their limiting beliefs and their their limitations tell them try and convince them why they cannot but it's like just challenging and questioning what if what if and of course there's always a chance that you will quote unquote I don't even think that there's anything such thing as failure right there's only feedback and strengthening your discernment so actually no the only way you can fail is if you don't try so you kind of shoot yourself in the foot being afraid of failure if you don't try because right. 

A: or waiting for the fear to not be there I think people are like well if I'm afraid like I should wait till I'm not afraid and it's like actually and I know this and you know this as entrepreneurs as successful like you know women doing what we're doing there's still moments of being afraid all the time all day there's there's self-doubt all the time and yet you still show up and you still move your body and you still explore and you still go what if and you still dream because the fear and those you know primal survival patterns they're not going to go away.

They're just going you're just going to build new pathways and expand expand on that you know part of your nervous system that part of your brain is just going to keep expanding so yeah there's your amygdala there's the warning signs going off in your brain that say oh this is getting a little too triggering right now right and then there's also but I know this could be worth it but there's part of me that's delighted there's part of me that's in you know totally excited and feeling juicy about this so let me go ahead and step forward into it this is so exciting I love everything that you've shared today your story is amazing I would love for you to tell our listeners you know what's gonna what's the name of your podcast right and and where can they find more information about your work 

S: yes so my podcast is Radiance Unleashed and Unapologetic it's for women who really want to reclaim their witch wound who really want to step into their visionary expansion and really claim that create tricks energy within them you can also follow me on Facebook or on Instagram you can just find me with my first name Saber Brachy on Instagram it's actually Saber in Paris right now but depending on when you listen to this I might be in another part of Europe but Saber S-A-B-R-E spelled like the sword um Facebook is usually the best way because it will just always have my last name Saber Brachy.

And yeah ultimately I help women really step into creating a life fully in alignment with their values for them to really step into a life where they can really create a life by design ultimately so if you're an entrepreneur and you know you want to expand into another version of income where you're in collaboration with other women you get to create generational wealth we call it a shared economy wealth income model so there's lots of different ways that you can step into the world of working with me.

But just following me my content first and foremost I teach free master classes that introduce how people can actually partner with me but it is really for women who are either currently entrepreneurs or even women who have never been entrepreneurs but they know that they are magical AF. And they know that they need to have a business model that it just aligns with all of them something that's good for the people and the planet as well as profit and really creating more of this ripple effect with your gifts so in essence in essence that's what I do and I have free classes that people can check out it's usually in the link in bio on any of my pages. 

A: fantastic yeah thank you so much this is such a wonderful conversation I'm excited to keep following and hearing your story and listening to your podcast 

S: yay thank you so much Aimee. This has been a really beautiful conversation, and I love the weaving of the body and dance and wealth. I don't get to talk about this as much and I feel like it's something that I mean it literally is it's it's been my superpower. It's been my secret to actually creating the life that I have lived and also for women to actually step into you know- where you remember you said something about your moving your body in beauty not even just the way that it looks.

But also, when I've learned how to do this with myself in the mirror and actually learning how to share my dance and create art with it, even from the visual aspect. It's like you're playing with your avatar in this way where you step into this whole new archetype and embodiment of who you are. So yeah, people who follow me will see a lot of that that dance and I just really I pray that it inspires many women to create and share their dance and their heart and their heart with with the world as well.

A: Wonderful, wonderful. Thank you.

Well everybody check out Sabre on social media, listen to her podcast, and we'll connect again soon.

S: Thank you, bye!

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